Turning towards your partner in a marriage is important. It shows them that they are a priority to you and their thoughts and feelings are important to you. I feel that it is important to think of their wants, needs, and ways you can serve them. My husband and I are 32 weeks pregnant with our first baby. At times while being pregnant it is easy to make it all about me. About how I feel and what I want. I have tried to be more conscious about turning to my husband and see how he is doing, ask him if he is sore and needs a rice pack.
We got into a bad car accident the other night. The other driver was texting and did not see all of the cars slamming on their breaks and ended up rear-ending us. My first reaction was to get out of the car, get a picture of the guy’s license plate incase he drove off (I’ve been involved in a hit and run before) and I told my husband to hurry and call 911. Then my thoughts went straight to my unborn baby. Many thoughts were running through my head, “is he okay? did the seat belt hurt him? what if he doesn’t make it.” In this moment I was so focused on getting insurance taken care of and waiting for the paramedics to get there to check on my baby. I realized I forgot to check on my husband. I forgot to turn towards him and check to see if he needed help.
My husband and I were both shaken up, but the whole time my husband was on the phone with 911 he was thinking about me and our baby, how we were. After the report was done and the paramedics checked me and our baby, my husband and I had a miscommunication and got a little snappy with each other. I realized we both went wrong, we got worked up with the situation and let ourselves put the blame on each other. When we got home we immediately sat down, apologized to each other, and spent time together as a couple. It was in this moment that we realized even though we were put in a scary situation, we were protected, by some miracle the airbags did not deploy because that would’ve harmed our unborn son. We came turned towards each other in this moment and prayed thanking God we were kept safe even if our car got totaled.
Turning to your spouse and God during life is crucial. It is important to remember that you are both stressed and to not take it out on each other. Initially after the accident we did not communicate good, and we did not turn towards each other. Thankfully we were able to realize the mistake we had made and turned towards each other.
Marriage and Family 